So Amanda has asked for more info on the embryo adoption and I aim to please so I'll update you all on where we are thus far. So far we have paid our initial application fee. Which basically means, we have to send in our homestudy, get blood work done to make sure we don't have HIV, hepatitis or any other STD's. Then we have to fill out our physical makeup. We had to write a brief letter to the donors stating our intent to adopt etc.
The organization tries to match your physical characteristics with that of the donors. Not that we wouldn't ever share with our child that genetically he/she is from different parents even though I gave birth to them.
I know it is slightly odd to wrap a mind around. Ken and I are going back and forth as far as an open or closed adoption b/c there are some different circumstances that we have to take into consideration.
So now we are onto our letter to the donor. How do you thank a donor for allowing you the chance to have their frozen embryo? I'm not really sure. In light of the octo-mom controversy this whole issue of invitro has taken on a whole new perspective for many.
But basically with invitro parents have 3 options:
1. Donate to a couple unable to conceive
2. designate the embryos to research or thawing, both of which results in death of the embryos
3. Indefinite storage
The ability to conceive a frozen embryo is about 40%, which is about 37% higher than what I currently have :)
That is our current status. I will update on our next stage which will be to go down to TN to have a consult with the doctor, do an ultrasound and more blood work.
We anticipate to do the transfer sometime from Feb-April.
Please don't hesitate to ask questions, if you are reading this you are a close friend and I value your questions and comments!
2 comments:
Debbie,
My sister in law is donating her eggs to a program like this and a good friend from undergrad is going to do the same thing you are! I'm praying for you!
Naomi
debs- i am glad that you posted this because i find myself constantly trying to remember 'what is what' when it comes to all the different 'procedures' ( i don't know how else to describe it!)- so it helps! I will pray for you and ken, as I know that it 's not something you guys take lightly, and that, I truly respect! So blessings and prayers for these embryo's, that well, need a 'home'... You're in my prayers dear friend!!
p.s. call me when you have time- i'm in a better mood the last few days because i finally feel a little better :)hee hee
But more seriously, I really will be praying for you and Ken about this... all my love to you!! xoxo ms
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